I may have mentioned this before, but I’m the most extroverted person I’ve ever met. I’ve taken the Myer’s-Briggs test 3 times and I have literally never scored a point for introvert. I also used to live in a house with no less than 9 other guys at a time (let’s just nickname it “The Duplex”), and I loved it. However, I’m also kind of a neat freak, so that living situation could only last so long. But one of my favorite things from that time was when I would go to bed and I could hear people in the other room watching a movie or playing video games and yelling/cheering/laughing/crying (that last one not so often). That was when I would sleep the absolute best (for the situations in which I sleep the worst, read this). I’ve also been known to turn the TV on just to have background noise, and I do in fact fall asleep to Mystery Science Theatre 3000 every night.
But extroverts (at least in my experience) tend to get a bad rap. Many introverts I know have a superiority complex and they make it a virtue to always remain quiet and skeptical, and somehow that also makes you more intelligent (people who talk a lot = stupid). While I agree that knowing how to withhold your tongue can be a virtue (one I certainly do not have), where would we be if no one was willing to say something, speak through awkward situations, or make an ass of themselves? We’d all be passive agressive, avoiding conflicts, and praising our own intelligence to ourselves probably. I’m kidding, but my point is that we need a balance of both, but let me tell you about my frustrations being from the extroverted side (if any introverts would like to say something, feel free to leave a long funny comment. Ha! Get it?).
The thing about being extroverted is not that you necessarily are constantly in social situations (bar hopping every night for example) or that you talk non-stop (shut it), but just that you get all of your energy from being around other people. A friend from church always says “The saddest thing to see is an extrovert in a car alone.” I disagree. The saddest thing is seeing an extrovert in a car alone with the radio broken. That would drive me absolutely nuts. Although I do think a sadder site is an introvert forced to be put in a socially awkward situation. That’s just hilarious. But I digress.
Because of the fact that almost all of my work for my job is online, I’m allowed to work from home two days a week. This is AMAZING, and I can’t even describe what a wonderful benefit this is. (sidenote, I love my job so freakin much) However, at least one of the afternoons from one of my two days that I work from home, I HAVE to go out to a coffeeshop and work from there (I’m at a Panera Bread as we speak). The reason is it is actually physically exhausting for me to be by myself for a long time. I literally get tired from being by myself, and sometimes it drives me crazy because there’s so many things I want to get done that I can do (or should do) by myself, but I get tired and depressed from being by myself, and my motivation and energy just goes right down the toilet. So I have to go out where there’s people, whether or not I actually talk to them, to get any energy back. Last night for example, I had been home most of the day, by myself, so I went out to a coffeeshop with my roommate, and I could literally feel the energy being pumped back in my body from just getting out around people and talking to someone.
While it’s a wonderful blessing to have such good people skills and have an entertaining personality, it is also incredibly frustrating when I get depressed simply because I haven’t been around people in eight hours, and I have things I want to get done. It’s also doubly frustrating when most of my close friends are gone and I don’t have people who are in my general vicinity to say “Hey what are you doing tonight? Let’s go…” (Ryan and Jacqui, those are the moments that I miss you SO MUCH!)
But I guess that’s just my curse that I have to live with, and truth be told I wouldn’t want to be any other way (who wants to just be by themselves all day? What’s the point?). I just wish I was a little better at being alone.